Lesson Learned #131
Telling someone else how I think they should feel about something does not work.
Listening to how they feel and attempting to understand their emotions and perspective can work.
Lesson Learned #132
Every conflict in my life has been co-created.
This is true even when it feels like the other person is 100% at fault.
When I look honestly, I find responsibility I didn’t own, boundaries I didn’t hold, or emotions of mine that I blamed on others.
Lesson I’ve Learned #133
I’m starting to believe most (if not all) violence comes from people tricking themselves into believing their pain derives from other people.
They then use that self-trickery to convince themselves those other people deserve to be punished.
Lesson Learned #134
Any activity I think about in terms of “should” is either shame/guilt based, not something I want to do, or both.
Seeing this and shifting my activities to things I want to do drastically improved my energy and emotions.
h/t Dan Sullivan
Lesson I’ve Learned #135
A key lesson in my life is seeing that the things I judge in others are in fact the parts of myself I reject.
Once I saw that in myself, I was able to recognize it other places.
I can tell what a person hates in themself by what they judge in others.
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