Kid Karma

I knew this day was coming, but I didn’t expect it to come this early, or in this way. I recently got home from a trip, and my kids ran out to my car to meet me, skipping and jumping with “Granny is here with presents” energy. Bishop (boy, age 7) “MOMMY SAID YOU POOPED IN…

Lessons Learned, 151-160

Lesson Learned #151 The single best thing I did to improve my marketing and coaching was become a great listener. I can’t meet someone’s need until I’ve truly listened to what they say, and what it means. It’s the skill I don’t hear others talk about, but has been crucial for me. ‍ Lesson Learned…

Lessons Learned, 141-150

Lesson Learned #141 I’ve learned to be very wary of people who tell me what they say is not what they mean. ‍ Lesson Learned #142 When I was starting out, we had to say yes to almost everything. Now that we’re successful, we have to say no to almost everything. ‍ Lesson Learned #143…

Lessons Learned, 136-140

Lesson Learned #136 I’ve learned to not argue with people. Conflict seekers are anxious and unhappy and looking to push their emotions onto me (or anyone else). They have nothing to lose, but I do. ‍ Lesson Learned #137 I used to think the question was “Who do you want to be?” That was incorrect.…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 131-135

Lesson Learned #131 Telling someone else how I think they should feel about something does not work. Listening to how they feel and attempting to understand their emotions and perspective can work. ‍ Lesson Learned #132 Every conflict in my life has been co-created. This is true even when it feels like the other person…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 126-130

Lesson I’ve Learned #126 A relationship that cannot tolerate a thoughtful conversation about needs, disappointments, and desires is not a healthy relationship. ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #127 The only toxic relationship I can have is with myself. Every other relationship in my life is simply a reflection of the relationship I have with myself. Once…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 121-125

Lesson I’ve Learned #121 Perfectionism is a compensation for inferiority. I developed my perfectionism as a child to get a sense of control for feelings of overwhelming powerlessness. I thought, “If I’m perfect, I can avoid feeling shame, judgement, and abandonment.” Didn’t work. ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #122 I like Buddha a lot. I like…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 116-120

Lesson I’ve Learned #116: Which pain do I want? The pain of staying the same, or the pain of growth? Part of me believes staying the same means no pain. That’s not true. It’s just different pain in a different way, at a different time. There’s always pain in life, I simply get to choose…