Lessons I’ve Learned, 71-80

Lesson I’ve Learned #71 A lesson I’ve learned but still struggle to accept is that I’m the cause of all my suffering. No one else. And no one can alleviate my suffering except me. It’s taken 44 years to get, and I feel like I’ve not truly grasped the depth of this truth yet. ‍…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 81-90

Lesson I’ve Learned #81: When I see someone with contempt for another person, I know one thing: on a deep level, they have contempt for something in themselves. Knowing this, I (try to) use my contempt for others as a signal to recognize what I don’t like about myself. In most cases, my contempt is…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 91-100

Lesson I’ve Learned #91 My external beliefs towards and about others represent my inner beliefs about myself. For example, I’m hard on others to do better, because I’m so hard on myself. Once I realized everyone else does this too, it was like being able to see past their masks into people’s souls. ‍ Lesson…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 11-20

Lesson I’ve Learned #11:  Writing a (non-fiction) book is a process that forces you to clearly understand and then explain that which you think you already know. The writing process is also a discovery process. I knew this already. I’d just never said it that way before. So h/t goes to me, lol. ‍ Lesson…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 21-30

Lesson I’ve Learned #21:  I was taught the Feynman Learning Technique in college, it’s worked my whole life: 1. Pick a topic that’s interesting. 2. Ask “Why?” until I get it. 3. Explain it in a story a child understands 4. Fill in gaps I find in my explanation. ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #22:  The…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 1-10

Lesson I’ve Learned #1:  “Every little increase in human freedom has been fought over ferociously between those who want us to know more and be wiser and stronger, and those who want us to obey and be humble and submit.” -Philip Pullman‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #2: Control freaks want to control everything but the one…

What MDMA Therapy Did For Me

I did MDMA therapy. It was a deeply profound and life-changing experience. I did two treatments, one in early September, another in early October. I would rank it as one of the top 3 most important things I’ve done in my life, at least in terms of my personal development. I’m writing about it because…

Why You Should NOT Go To Law School

At some point in their life, everyone thinks they should go to law school. You may in fact think you want to go to law school now. You’re wrong. I don’t know you, I have no idea what the facts of your life are, but that doesn’t matter, you aren’t the exception: For the overwhelming…

How To Deal With Cops

I recently had to do an interview to get a security clearance (it’s not for something cool, unfortunately), and the guy interviewing me–having read my books–was shocked I had such a limited criminal history. He just assumed I’d been arrested countless times and indicted on at least a few of them. Not the case. Don’t…