Lessons I’ve Learned, 111-115

Lesson I’ve Learned #111 For some reason I thought being courageous would be easy. That was quite wrong. ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #112 Every time I accept one of my excuses, my regard for myself goes down. Every time I keep a commitment to myself, my regard for myself goes up. So simple to understand,…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 101-110

Lesson I’ve Learned #101 The world rewards the people who are best at telling stories about ideas, not the people with the best ideas. ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #102 When I don’t know how to directly and clearly express what I need, what I often do is find ways to criticize others. Even though I…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 61-70

Lesson I’ve Learned #61: I used to try to save people. To convince them they could succeed. To inspire them to take action in their lives. I thought I was doing it to help them, but I was fooling myself. It was selfish (and arrogant). I was doing this to avoid my own issues. I…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 71-80

Lesson I’ve Learned #71 A lesson I’ve learned but still struggle to accept is that I’m the cause of all my suffering. No one else. And no one can alleviate my suffering except me. It’s taken 44 years to get, and I feel like I’ve not truly grasped the depth of this truth yet. ‍…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 81-90

Lesson I’ve Learned #81: When I see someone with contempt for another person, I know one thing: on a deep level, they have contempt for something in themselves. Knowing this, I (try to) use my contempt for others as a signal to recognize what I don’t like about myself. In most cases, my contempt is…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 51-60

Lesson I’ve Learned #51: If you don’t have an assistant, you are one. If you don’t make much money, this is fine—good even. If you do make a lot of money, you are paying way too much for an assistant. (h/t Dan Sullivan) ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #52: There’s nothing that inspires trust in a…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 31-40

Lesson I’ve Learned #31: People say they want the truth, but only about others. For themselves, they want flattery. (h/t Carl Jung) Note: exceptions exist, and those people are rare treasures that I value highly and keep close–because they’re truly honest with me as well. ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #32: I say “I don’t know”…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 41-50

Lesson I’ve Learned #41: When I want to engage people with a story, I don’t tell people what they should do. I tell people what I did. No one wants to be lectured or told what to do. We all want to see the inspiring and honest failures (and successes) of others. ‍ Lesson I’ve…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 91-100

Lesson I’ve Learned #91 My external beliefs towards and about others represent my inner beliefs about myself. For example, I’m hard on others to do better, because I’m so hard on myself. Once I realized everyone else does this too, it was like being able to see past their masks into people’s souls. ‍ Lesson…

Lessons I’ve Learned, 21-30

Lesson I’ve Learned #21:  I was taught the Feynman Learning Technique in college, it’s worked my whole life: 1. Pick a topic that’s interesting. 2. Ask “Why?” until I get it. 3. Explain it in a story a child understands 4. Fill in gaps I find in my explanation. ‍ Lesson I’ve Learned #22:  The…