Lessons Learned, 136-140

August 2, 2020
Lessons Learned

Lesson Learned #136

I've learned to not argue with people.

Conflict seekers are anxious and unhappy and looking to push their emotions onto me (or anyone else).

They have nothing to lose, but I do.

Lesson Learned #137

I used to think the question was "Who do you want to be?"

That was incorrect.

The real question is "Who are you willing to be?"

Self-sabotage and fear of success were mind-blowing discoveries in myself.

Hard to believe, and hard to root out.

Lesson Learned #138

I try to plan new things out meticulously, to alleviate my anxiety.

Doesn't work.

Takes a 13th century Persian poet to remind of what I have learned so many times:

"As you start to walk on the way, the way appears."
-Rumi

Lesson I've Learned #139

Every fool I've met is convinced their opinion is right, can't conceive of any other way to see it, and refuses to consider other ideas.

In my experience, only fools are certain.

Lesson Learned #140

When the world doesn’t make sense, it's a signal my mental model is wrong, and I should observe and learn more.

Seems so obvious now, but I fought this for years. I wanted the world to fit my model.

That led to a lot of suffering on my part.

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Tucker Max

Tucker Max is the co-founder of Scribe Media, a company that helps you write, publish, and market your book.  

He's written four New York Times Best Sellers (three hit #1), which have sold over 4.5 million copies worldwide. He's credited with being the originator of the literary genre, “fratire,” and is only the fourth writer (including Malcolm Gladwell, Michael Lewis and Brene Brown) to ever have three books on the New York Times Nonfiction Best Seller List at one time. He was nominated to the Time Magazine 100 Most Influential List in 2009.

He received his BA from the University of Chicago in 1998, and his JD from Duke Law School in 2001. He currently lives in Austin, Texas, with his wife Veronica and three children.


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