Lessons I've Learned, 126-130

July 12, 2020
Lessons Learned

Lesson I've Learned #126

A relationship that cannot tolerate a thoughtful conversation about needs, disappointments, and desires is not a healthy relationship.

Lesson I've Learned #127

The only toxic relationship I can have is with myself. Every other relationship in my life is simply a reflection of the relationship I have with myself.

Once I really got this, I had to make many changes.

Lesson I've Learned #128

Every person I've ever met who said they were "trying to make things better" for other people, but did not have their own life in order, ended up making everything worse for everyone--including themselves.

Lesson I've Learned #129

The more insecure the ego, the less it can tolerate differences.

Fundamentalists and militant groups are created by deep insecurity and fear, and a need to distance themselves from the otherness that lies within each of us.

h/t James Hollis

Lesson I've Learned #130

When I'm anxious, or depressed, or suffering, I've found it's a sign I'm refusing to see or accept a truth.

Usually it's a clear truth that I don't want to be true.

When I accept that truth, it hurts momentarily, and then the suffering goes away.

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Tucker Max

Tucker Max is the co-founder of Scribe Media, a company that helps you write, publish, and market your book.  

He's written four New York Times Best Sellers (three hit #1), which have sold over 4.5 million copies worldwide. He's credited with being the originator of the literary genre, “fratire,” and is only the fourth writer (including Malcolm Gladwell, Michael Lewis and Brene Brown) to ever have three books on the New York Times Nonfiction Best Seller List at one time. He was nominated to the Time Magazine 100 Most Influential List in 2009.

He received his BA from the University of Chicago in 1998, and his JD from Duke Law School in 2001. He currently lives in Austin, Texas, with his wife Veronica and three children.


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